Category Archives: Blessings

April 25, 2009

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On this day, hubby and I went on our first date.

Because I was going out on a date with someone I met online, I notified friends and family.  I mean…you never know.  Ya know?  (Truth be told, I always notified someone when I was going out on a date, period.  But this was my first time going out with someone I met online.)

I my aunt sent me a text that said something like “he’s not the Craigslist killer, is he?!”  Uhm, no.  For one, I think the Craigslist Killer lives/d in a different part of the country.  Also…I wasn’t going on Craigslist to find dates.  😉

Hubby picked me up.  This wasn’t my smartest move because had it not gone well he would know where I lived.  Note to single ladies: drive yourself and meet at a common place when dating someone you meet online.  Although it was out of character for me to let my guard down and allow him to know where I lived at that point, I had a feeling he was trustworthy so I went with it.   I guess I figured that, based on our conversations, this was certainly not going to be my worst first date.  haha  I got the impression that he was a pretty decent guy.

He picked me up around 1pm, and when he pulled up I wondered if the guy in the black Dodge Ram would look like the same guy in the pictures online.  I know he was thinking the same thing about me.  I saw him…and…yes.  He was (and still is) handsome.  Sparkling blue eyes.  Blonde hair.  Groomed.  Shaved facial hair (that’s important to me).  Clean, strong hands (also important to me).  Muscular.  Lean.  A climber.   Athletic.  (Let me stop.  lol)

The best part of this date was that we had already talked about lots of things and had already discovered how much we have in common.  The advantage of online dating: you can get all the small talk out of the way before you actually meet.  Then, when you DO meet (if you meet), then you can have more meaningful conversation. 

We went mini-golfing.  I maintain that I let him win.  =D  That joker got three holes in one!  He says it was his best mini golf game and that I was (and still am) his lucky charm.

Then, we went to eat at my favorite restaurant.  We sat outside, ate, and chatted.  It was nice. 

We then went to Universal City Walk, sat by the lake, and chatted well into the night.  Our first date was about 12-hours long, and there was never a dull, awkward moment.

It was late when I got home, and when he dropped me off he was a perfect gentleman.  It was the best first date.

I knew better than to swoon, because I couldn’t allow my heart to rule over my head.  He was of the same mindset…I know this because we talked about it eventually.  🙂  When we did talk about it he quoted Proverbs 4:23: Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.  That’s my advice to single folks who are on the merry-go-round that is dating.

We were hanging out and/or chatting via text and phone calls everyday.  It. Was. Awesome.  I think within a year of dating him I sent my mom a text that said “I am going to marry this guy.”  Her reply: “And you tell me this in a text message??” 

We moved in together after four months, and we were engaged at seven months.  Three years after that first date and we are a couple of months from our one-year wedding anniversary. 

We’ve rematched that golf game every year and we’ve tied.  I maintain that it’s because I won’t let him win again.  🙂

One year later…

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We closed on our house a year ago yesterday on Feb 25, 2011…after submitting the offer in June of 2011.  We learned a lot about ourselves in that eight months.  We prayed for patience, and also learned that praying for patience often leads to tests of patience. We got eight months of tests of patience! Lots of ups and downs, and lots of emotions and frustration, etc. (if you care to read my rants on my place to vent or maybe learn a few things about short sales in general, you can see my blog posts about the experience here: http://dontbuyashortsale.blogspot.com/ Reminder: this was my place to vent.  You’ve been warned.)

We looked at several other houses over the course of those eight months, and submitted offers on four other homes. Nothing worked out and our realtor was convinced this house was meant to be ours.

We can say now that it was worth it and that we are glad we waited for this house. It was meant to be ours. I dislike saying that i “love” materialistic things…but I love our house. I love that it is our home.

After buying the house, we found a piece of art that says “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”  We bought it because we believe that’s what we learned throughout our first home buying experience.

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I love a warm fire.

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Blessing #4: We have a fireplace!

Two years ago we lived in a rinky townhouse that had no heat.  And wouldn’t you know it snowed in Florida that year?!

We were actually out looking at venues for our wedding in the snow in Florida that year.  We visited two locations and both were shocked that we actually showed for our appointments.  A few snow flurries, and we Floridians didn’t know quite what to do.  Snow day??  Although it was cool to see snow, and a learning experience to scrape off ice with a credit card (and in Florida!) we were miserable most days – indoors or out.  It was 50 degrees inside because we had no heat in that rinky townhouse.  To some folks up north, 50 degrees is no big deal.  But, to this Florida girl that’s freezing!  (Being honest, anything below 70 and I’m shivering.)   And I counted everyday we spent with weather below the 40s, and there were 90 of them.  It started the day we left for Christmas vacation and it lasted until three months later in mid-March.

The following winter (last year, and still in the same townhouse) it was cold yet again.  Two winters of unseasonably cold winter in the Sunshine State.  This time it was especially frustrating because we had an offer on a home with a fireplace.  Our dream home.  We shivered through that winter hoping we would soon be owners of a home with a warm fireplace and maybe central heat!

Alas, the home is now ours.  We didn’t get the home in time to use the fireplace that winter.  We got it in late February and of course the cold snap didn’t last as long that year!

This winter we burned a fire in the fireplace the first night it was below 50 degrees outside.  Why?  Because we could.

Last night we had our coldest night in about a year, complete with a hard freeze.  I came home from work and immediately lit the fire.  Hubby was at work, but I enjoyed the hell out of that fireplace.  It is truly a blessing to have warmth during a cold winter night.

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Blessings: One, Two, Three…

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I have seen several ideas for a-blog-day for the new year.  Photos, recipes, you name it.  But, I think I will count blessings.  I think I need to do that more often because my world moves so quickly I often lose sight of things.  Social media can be a downer with everyone filtering only the good news and it sometimes feels like we live in a never-ending pissing contest.  Of course we all tend to want what we don’t or can’t have so it can be easy to turn green thanks to social media.  I decided I need to reflect more on the many blessings in my life.  In our life.

Since it is January 3rd, I am in debt three blessings.  But, reflecting, I realize we have three families between the two of us…and we are blessed three times over.  Sure, hubby might feel differently about his parents divorcing and remarrying as a blessing…but I see that we are blessed with that much more family. 

We are blessed with three sets of parents, siblings, and all that comes with family…but more of it.  Good, bad, ugly, or indifferent I think family is a blessing.  Times three.